I feel so guilty for being a “present but unpleasant” mom. Sometimes I’m mentally exhausted, exhausted, exhausted, but still There is still much to do. One more request, one more mess, one more thing will send me into a spiral of rage and, unfortunately, I will start yelling.
I can be grumpy. I can be very sensitive. I always feel bad when I lose my cool. I always fix my mistakes with my family after a tantrum, but I still wish I didn’t have to do it in the first place. Alas, I am human.
One mom has some advice for moms like me who may be around a lot but feel bad when they are around.
“As a mother, if you’re feeling mentally exhausted, I would say this just to inspire you to start taking care of yourself. There’s something like this that you’re present for, but it’s very unpleasant. As mothers and wives, our goal is we want to be here, We want to exist, but we also want to be happy to be around because otherwise, like, girl, go somewhere and take care of yourself,” TikTok user Michon said in her video.
“So if you’re mentally exhausted, if you’re exhausted and you go to your family with this energy, I’m not blaming you in any way, I’m just pointing that out and saying you need to use what you’ve got The resources you need to seek help and get what you need so that you can properly adjust and show up appropriately for your family.
She went on to say that as mothers, we are responsible for the atmosphere in our home. While, yes, it’s a lot of pressure, we need to make sure our kids aren’t walking on eggshells around us because at the end of the day, we have control over our emotions.
“But just because mom is here, she’s home, she’s with us, doesn’t mean we’re all having a good time, because if mom is in a bad mood, if mom is yelling at everyone, mom will be picky, mom She’ll be grumpy because the food isn’t ready yet. She’ll make everyone in the family feel uncomfortable. , but not a very pleasant one,” she explained, before giving another example of how this dynamic plays out in a family unit.
“This happens with abusive narcissistic fathers. If you’re in the home, yes, you’re here, but you make the home uncomfortable. You make the home so tense with this terrible energy because everyone Both are walking on eggshells and don’t want to upset you. It’s the same thing as a grumpy mom who is exhausted and doesn’t have the ability to take time for herself. You have to find some way to make time for yourself. You can’t always make excuses. I know it’s hard. I know time doesn’t always allow for the help we need, but we still have to prioritize it. We still need to find a healthy way out.
She goes on to point out that while this kind of control and patience can be difficult, we need to do our best because when we are and Have fun and the whole family wins.
“This is hard, y’all. You’re going to have hard days. These kids are going to push you into a corner. Sometimes your husband may push you over the edge. But we have to exercise restraint and find the right fit. Get those things out, get our emotions out, get our expressions out and have our own time to talk to the Lord, like, we have to prioritize that in all of our relationships. Show up as your best self,” Michonne continued.
“So I’m not sure what it’s like for you. Get the assistance you need. Talk to anyone in your family about how they can help you with these issues. If you have a husband, talk to your husband about this in a respectful way thing, because he wants to help you, so he’s going to help you with that. But yeah, do your best.
For some people, this fix will be easier than others, right? Some of us don’t have the partners or resources to “get away” and take time to recharge. Some people pointed this out in the comments of Michonne’s video and shared her video’s relevance.
“I just need a month to sleep and be alone,” one user joked.
“This is so relatable 😂 My husband started giving me mommy weekends, they’re not very frequent but I love them,” OP replied.
“Yelling at me 🥺😩 I need to stop yelling, I feel like a bad mom sometimes. I feel mentally exhausted. Great advice! Thank you 🙏🏼,” wrote another.
“It’s so normal. We often take everything so personally and don’t prioritize making time for ourselves, so it’s really a natural reaction. Don’t feel bad. Just try to realize that you do need to have time for yourself ,” Michonne replied.
