If you’ve always wanted to meet someone, you can’t just find them on WhatsApp or Instagram. You can also find your potential Mr Right through online dating. If you’re new to this, trust me; I’ve seen that dating someone you met online can actually lead to romantic success. But the most important question is: How to interpret online dating profiles?
Yes, you have to pay close attention to certain details. Let’s face it, finding the time (and energy) to browse profiles between making dinner and tutoring homework can feel like an Olympics.
Don’t worry! I’m here so you don’t have to do a lot of trial and error. I’ve written this guide based on experience so you can spend less time fumbling around and more time finding people worthy of your attention. So grab a cup of coffee and read on!
Dating Life 101: Hacking a Person’s Online Dating Profile
In traditional dating, the rule of thumb is to go on at least a few dates before you know everything there is to date. However, online dating apps allow you to get to know him by looking at his profile. Is he “laid back,” or does that mean he’s always late? Does “adventure” mean going for a hike or binge-watching Netflix in bed? Paying close attention to these details will help you decipher who he really is.
his username
Even before you exchange messages, a person’s user ID on a dating site can provide subtle clues about his personality. Often usernames are meant to stand out, but they can also reflect how a person sees himself or what he’s looking for. If it’s something fun like “AdventureGuy,” he might be trying to show off his fun, spontaneous side. A more direct Bumble handle like “JohnSmithNYC” could mean he’s serious about getting to know someone and isn’t into games. But be wary of usernames that are overly suggestive or immature—they may hint at less than genuine intentions. While user ID is just the tip of the iceberg, it also means much more. This is your first impression before you dive deeper into his profile.
His profile photo (and selfie)
One photo speaks volumes about his personality. The classic mirror selfie might be a sign that he loves the way he looks, but maybe there’s just a lack of better photographers. Group photo? He may be social, but now you’re just playing “Where’s Waldo” trying to figure out who he is. Maybe he’s funny in some way, but it could also be a sign that he’s a bit of a follower. A man wearing sunglasses in every photo means he is either mysterious, insecure, or just hiding something! This photo of him hiking outdoors could mean he’s really adventurous or just trying to impress. Showing photos of pets is a plus. Either he’s not an animal lover or he knows pets will get likes. Then there are the photos in the gym, showing off muscles – confident or a little vain?
When it comes to finding the meaning behind his profile photo, keep in mind that sometimes what he’s trying to show may not be the full story! One picture is not enough to assess his personality. So it’s better to browse more photos on his account.
what he said and what he meant
A person may present themselves in a certain way to stand out, but his words may tell a different story if you know the meaning behind them.
- “I’m looking for an interesting person”: Fun is great, but fun can also be fuzzy. What does he mean by fun? Does he want someone with spontaneity, or is he running away from anything serious? As a single mom, you’re probably looking for a balance between fun and stability, so if things seem too carefree, be sure to dig deeper.
- “No drama”: If a man mentions this, it could be a sign that he’s dealt with difficult relationships in the past, or that he’s trying to show that he’s not interested in dealing with complicated situations. But life as a single mom can be chaotic at times, with sick kids and a demanding job. So you need someone who can handle real life, not someone looking for drama-free fairy tales.
Decoding online dating profiles without a personal dating coach
Danger signs to watch out for
You can learn a lot by looking at a person’s account. It can give you early warning of potential red flags. Here’s what to look for:
- Vague description: If his profile doesn’t say much about who he is, then he might be hiding something or not taking things seriously. The lack of effort in his profile may reflect his lack of effort in the relationship.
- Paying too much attention to appearance: If every other line is about how attractive he thinks you (or he) is, then he’s probably more interested in looks than building a connection. If you’re looking for someone who values more than just superficial attractiveness, this is a big no-no.
- Too negative: If he likes to share and complain about “crazy exes” or things he doesn’t want in a relationship, he probably hasn’t gotten over his past or is still carrying baggage. It would make a big difference if he was more focused on what he didn’t want than what he was looking for.
His hobbies – do they reveal his true self?
Hobbies can tell you a lot about a person, but men often disguise them to make themselves look more attractive. Before you go on a first date with someone you met online, pay attention to whether his interests align with your life.
- “I like traveling”: We’ve all seen this. Sure, traveling is great, but does this guy want to fly around the world every other weekend? If you’re balancing work and kids, your idea of a trip might be a weekend getaway rather than an immediate trip across Europe.
- “Fitness Mania”: If he goes to the gym regularly, it might be a healthy habit, or he might want you to join. Maybe, maybe not.
- “Relax with Netflix”: This one is tricky. Does he really enjoy quality couch time, or is he using that phrase as a code name for something else? You probably know the answer, but make sure you’re all on the same page!
his resume
I also found it helpful to check his resume. A misogynistic creature means he may have no respect for women or believe in outdated stereotypes. You know what to do when you come across one of these, click that mismatched button immediately!
He may already have children, be open to the idea, or be completely opposed to it. Find out if he is looking for a relationship with a single parent. Dating with kids can be challenging, but there are many single dads out there who understand and respect your family dynamic.
You know, as single moms, we go on great dates. But if the first impression surprises you, trust your instincts and click next!
Summary: The Secrets Behind Men’s Online Dating Profiles
Hacking a guy’s online dating account can really help you figure out what he’s looking for – whether it’s for a serious relationship with someone or just for a hookup. Men often reveal little about their intentions, so take the time to read them carefully. If he talks about values, life goals, or meaningful dating experiences, he’s probably looking for something serious. But if his profile focuses on fun and physical attraction, it could be a sign that he prefers casual hookups. These little indicators can save you time and help you find people who share your interests. Also watch out for negative comments about your ex-girlfriend! Whether you’re looking for a long-term or casual relationship, knowing what to look for in a profile will allow you to find the right person.
Finally, it helps to know what you want. Do you want someone who is witty? Aren’t you looking for anything serious? You should feel comfortable on your first date; if you don’t, walk away.
