There are many people who have less than ideal relationships with their spouse’s mother. I have to imagine that sometimes they get frustrated and ask themselves “Why is my mother-in-law like this?”
TikTok creator Janelle (@heyjanellemarie) posts a lot of content about women’s (and their husbands’) relationships with their mothers-in-law. Specifically, the toxic mother-in-law. In a podcast interview, she was asked an interesting question: “What do you think is the biggest trend in women ending up as mothers-in-law in strained relationships?”
She said this initially confused her because it ultimately depends on so many factors. But on reflection, she identified four things that seemed to serve as “risk groups,” warning that she was “a person on the Internet; I’m not going to talk to you directly.
“If we try to identify patterns that might make it more likely that a person has a personality trait or that there are gaps that make them find themselves in situations where they have a bad relationship with their son and daughter-in-law,” she explained, “[this] This is what I saw, and it’s based on thousands of private messages.
So what are the risk factors for becoming a witch? Is your mother-in-law one of them? your mother? yes you Is there any danger?
Let us know more…
Women who have unsatisfactory relationships with their partners
That includes single women, she said.
“My mom is a divorced mom who has never been in a new relationship,” one commenter confirmed. “She views my husband as her partner, not her son.”
In fact, other commenters who see themselves in this bullet point highlight the fact that their mothers-in-law tend to rely on their sons for emotional support and view their daughters-in-law as a challenge to their “#1” role. “Women” in life.
A woman who often gossips
Specifically, Jenelle said, women find pleasure in gossiping, especially when they’re gossiping about someone they truly love and enjoy spending time with.
“100% agree with this gossip,” one commenter agreed. “This will make you feel like you’re in her circle of trust – but remember, if she does it to you, she does it to you.”
women with only sons
To which Jenelle simply explained: “Sorry.”
Commenters are intrigued. Many women consider themselves mothers of boys and emphasize that they are actively trying to be good mothers-in-law. Others asked for clarification, agreed enthusiastically, or added interesting nuances to the statement.
“I would also say ‘women who prefer sons over daughters,'” one person suggested. “Especially when they Tell Their daughters consider their son their favorite (this is my MIL).
(Sidebar: OMG!)
“Any thoughts for mothers with sons who are young? Under 22? Another asked. “I think this works (in my experience, haha). “
“I feel like… for some of them, when they leave and start their own families, it becomes a deep-rooted insecurity,” said a third. “Because daughters tend to be closer to their mothers, while sons are more distant.”
Insecure/jealous women
Janelle attributes this to unresolved trauma, which ultimately causes the woman to become “a very defensive, very insecure, very jealous person.”
So, the real question is: how much of it is your Mother-in-law is angry – how is the situation?
