In a marriage, especially with children, the frequency of sex can be quite fluid. Sometimes you and your partner are back in the honeymoon phase, having sex both ways, and other times you’re in the middle of a dry sexual drought.
The kids are tired. Life will get in your way. Sometimes, sex isn’t a priority. And everyone’s sexual desires and need Because sex is different! Do people really have as much sex as they say they do, especially exhausted parents? What is “normal” in terms of frequency of sexual intercourse?
“If you are a mother and you have children. I have a question for you. I want a very honest answer because I need to know what is normal, like what is happening, what is normal on average ? So my question to you is, if you’re a mom with kids, how often do you do that? Like what’s normal? Because I have three kids and I’m exhausted. I’d love to see the answer to this question,” Ellie Kay asks in the video.
I hope the answers on Kay’s TikTok will give her some relief as the answers range from once a week to once a month or even once a day!
“Sometimes once a month. Sometimes 5 days a week. It changes based on 1,000 factors,” one user said.
Another shared: “We’d be lucky if it happened once or twice a month.”
“Once a month, maybe twice,” wrote another.
One user said: “Listen, we’ve been married 10 years and we have 4 kids. Sometimes we go months without it. It’s like every night now. There are times in your life when you’re more Others do more.
Another user responded: “We have 3 kids and do this multiple times a week most days. But I have a very hands-on husband who helps me with the kids and housework and we have a great relationship, So that definitely helps.
This is a very interesting point. If both parents shared their workload—kids, house, pets, etc.—would they feel less exhausted? Is there room for more sex? That definitely makes sense in my book. When my husband is actually doing the work, giving me space to recharge and be an active partner, not only am I more attracted to him, but I feel rested enough to do the work!
For those of you wondering, according to the Archives of Sexual Behavior study, the typical American couple has sex 56 times a year. If we all did simple math, that would be about once a week! It seems feasible. However, let’s be clear first, there is no “normal” number of times when it comes to Kai. We all have our ups and downs when we have sex with our partners! I think her comments reflected that in part.
