Being alone at Christmas can be daunting, especially when we’re surrounded by festive pressures and society’s expectations (I’m looking at you, social media). But what if this actually turns out to be one of your most memorable Christmas celebrations? As a single mom, I’ve spent a few Christmases alone, and I promise, there are so many ways to make it special!
So, whether you’re away from loved ones, live overseas, or just want to have a different December 25th, here are some helpful tips to help you upgrade a lonely day into unforgettable fun!
Further reading: Spending your first Christmas as a single parent
How to find joy when you’re alone at Christmas
Create new traditions
Not all traditions have to involve large gatherings, some can be personal or even solitary. Start your day right by watching your favorite holiday movie or enjoying a hearty breakfast. The great thing about it is that you have your own schedule and the freedom to do things your own way! There’s something magical about developing your own habits, they can be as cheesy or as unique as you like.
volunteer
Volunteering is one of the most fulfilling ways to celebrate Christmas. Many people help others find joy during the holidays. When I first started helping out at a nearby orphanage a few years ago, I didn’t feel alone at all. Instead, I made new connections with my children and fellow volunteers. Find nearby charities and organizations that may interest you. I’m sure it will be a fulfilling experience.
Further reading: How volunteering can really help your mental health.
Eat something delicious
Who says Christmas isn’t the perfect excuse for that long-awaited me-time? Being alone at Christmas doesn’t mean you can’t hang out. Have a Christmas lunch in a lovely restaurant or even catch a movie in the cinema. Go somewhere you’ve always wanted to go but couldn’t. You can even splurge a little! Plus, it’s Christmas! Doing so may even bring a sense of satisfaction. Remember, this time of year is all about celebration, even if it’s just you.
Create a holiday playlist
When the Christmas loneliness starts to creep in, music can be a great pick-me-up. Make a playlist with a few of your favorite songs and dance around your living room! Let go of any worries, blast that music, and get into full party mode. The best part is you get to choose every song! Music has this incredible way of changing your mood and making you feel good even when celebrating alone.
Bake your favorite foods
Nothing says Christmas more than the smell of freshly baked cookies or delicious cake. Baking can be a therapeutic activity and you can enjoy every bite! You can bake pies, gingerbread cookies, or something more adventurous. I don’t know about you, but baking gives me a warm and fuzzy feeling. Remember, there is no pressure to share, it’s all about you! But if you want to share your baked goodies with your neighbors, you can!
Read a good book or watch a movie marathon
One of the best things about spending time alone at Christmas is the freedom to do what you want. You finally have time to read that novel you bought a long time ago or catch up on the latest episode of your favorite Netflix series. Make it a day of escapism, whether it’s a Christmas classic or something non-holiday related. The beauty of it all is that you are free to enjoy what you love without compromise, a cultural experience that is just for you!
self reflection
It truly is the most wonderful time of the year. What better way to celebrate than with some self-reflection?
If you’re feeling a little lonely, try taking some quiet time to list the things you’re grateful for. Maybe it’s the simple happiness of drinking hot coffee, the sound of birds outside, or even the chance to be alone. Trust me, it can make a big difference.
Get creative with DIY decorations
Who says you can’t decorate on your own? Grab some DIY supplies and make your own decorations or decorations. Crafting can be a fun way to keep yourself busy. You might even end up with a beautifully decorated, one-of-a-kind space. I recommend going to your nearest craft store a few weeks before to avoid the Christmas rush.
Pamper yourself with a family spa day
“Me time” isn’t complete without rejuvenating yourself from head to toe. If you don’t have the financial means to afford a luxury salon, why not do it at home? Put on a face mask, take a hot shower, or try some health and skin care products you’ve been saving. Christmas is a great time to relax and treat yourself. In the hustle and bustle of the holidays, it’s easy to forget about self-care, but remember how important it is to take care of yourself, especially when you’re spending time alone.
Send messages to loved ones to reduce loneliness
Even if you celebrate Christmas alone, sending a heartfelt message or two to loved ones can bridge the distance. Let them know you are thinking of them this holiday season, even though you are apart. This connection, even through a simple text or video call, can remind you of someone who cares about you, and vice versa.
Further reading: Your kids can get through the grief of separation if they spend Christmas with their dad.
Enjoy a peaceful walk in nature
If the stress of loneliness starts to creep in, try taking a walk outside. While everyone else is partying, you can breathe fresh air and be one with nature. How cool is that! Australia is home to stunning natural landscapes, and a quiet walk can help you feel connected to the world around you. Whether it’s a stroll on the beach, a walk in the park, or just enjoying the crisp December air, nature brings peace and clarity this time of year.
Final words: How to spend Christmas alone
Celebrating Christmas alone doesn’t have to feel sad. I remember my first Christmas alone after my divorce. My kids spent the day with my ex and his relatives, so I had a full day of alone time. I’m not going to lie; the loneliness was intense at first. But over time, I embraced peace and solitude. I baked, watched a childhood holiday movie, and even had an at-home spa treatment. It became a day where I improved my relationship with myself and it was pure bliss.
The holidays can be challenging when you’re on your own, but they’re also an opportunity for self-love, new traditions, and contentment. So if you’re spending Christmas alone this year, remember that there are many ways to make the day a happy one. Enjoy the freedom, pamper yourself, buy yourself a Christmas gift and create a unique holiday. Remember, you are not alone; Many others are in the same situation. So grab some Baileys, choose your favorite movie, and enjoy it like you were a kid. May this be a wonderful time of year for you. Merry Christmas!
